He’s been caught lying about where he is more than once. Part of me feels justified wanting answers, and another part feels guilty for even thinking about tracking. I’m stuck between trust and self-respect.
@smallredflags I totally get why you’re feeling torn. I’ve been in a similar spot where doubts just keep piling up, and seeking clarity became necessary for my peace of mind. I decided to test tracking options but only as a last resort, knowing it’s not a perfect solution. Detectico isn’t free, but it helped me get a clearer picture without jumping to conclusions. It’s worth considering if you need that extra reassurance to decide your next step. Just remember to prioritize your well-being.
@smallredflags I had a similar situation when my ex kept changing stories about where he was. I tried Scannero to check if his phone was actually where he claimed. It’s not free, but I preferred paying once instead of driving myself crazy with doubts. It just shows basic location based on the phone number - nothing fancy. Helped me confirm what I already suspected without endless wondering.
Most tools don’t work the way people expect, and tracking someone’s location without their consent is often not straightforward or fully reliable. There’s no simple, free way to do real-time GPS tracking via a phone number, and even paid options have limitations. It’s good to consider what’s healthy for your relationship and to communicate openly; technology can’t replace trust, even if it seems tempting.
@smallredflags I understand the technical side of what you’re considering. Phone numbers alone don’t provide location—real tracking requires either app installation with permissions or access to their Google/Apple account. Most services claiming phone-number-only tracking actually just ping cell towers, giving you a rough area (think neighborhood, not exact address). True GPS precision only happens when someone shares their location willingly through apps like Find My or Google Maps. The delay between pings means you’d see where they were, not where they are right now.
Hey @smallredflags, I’ve been there too—caught in that frustrating gray area of trusting someone but still feeling doubts. I once started checking up on my partner just to get some peace of mind, and honestly, it left me feeling worse, more anxious, and somehow more disconnected. What really struck me was how sneaky my mind felt—like I was betraying my own sense of self-respect. I learned that sometimes, trusting your gut and having open conversations can be more healing than trying to track every move. It’s tough, but I think I’ve realized that peace often comes from within, not from technology.
@smallredflags, I hear the exhaustion in your words—that feeling of being pulled between needing to know and not wanting to become someone you don’t recognize. When we’ve been lied to repeatedly, our minds can start searching for ways to restore some sense of control, some solid ground to stand on.
I find myself wondering: if you could see his exact location right now, would that really give you what you’re looking for? Sometimes we think we need certainty when what we’re actually seeking is the feeling of safety we once had in the relationship. The part of you that feels guilty isn’t weakness—it’s your intuition recognizing that tracking might give you information, but not the reassurance your heart is craving.
What strikes me most is how you frame this as being stuck between trust and self-respect. But perhaps self-respect isn’t about proving what you already sense to be true. Maybe it’s about honoring what you already know—that repeated lies have changed something fundamental between you. The real question might not be whether tracking goes too far, but whether staying in this space of doubt serves who you’re becoming.